Do you feel sad, alone or incomplete?
Do you seek a Soul Mate?
Many people attempt to control such feelings with distractions and drugs.
We help people change the consequences associated with losing a womb-twin.
Human twins are famous for a closeness that seems to begin
in their mother's womb. Although most people forget their pre-birth experiences,
most twins share strong bonds throughout their lives. If a twin dies, the surviving
twin will likely experience unpleasant emotional consequences .
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Perhaps the idea of vanishing twins began in ancient Greece.
Over 2000 years ago, the philosopher Plato wrote that people are
conceived perfect, and then split in half by the god Zeus. Plato described
human loneliness, the desire for lost perfection and searching for
twin souls ... sometimes called
... and when one of them meets
the other half, the actual half of himself,
the pair are lost in an amazement of love
and friendship and intimacy and
one will not be out of the other's sight
even for a moment ... Plato (340 BC)
Most multiple pregnancies result in single babies. Although ultrasound technology
can identify multiple pregnancies very early in pregnancy, technicians may
be instructed not to tell the mothers, nor record the existence of more than one
fetus, to avoid feelings of grief or loss. They know that later ultrasound
scans will show mostly singletons. Most twins will have vanished.
I was told that I would have twin
babies ... twins are common in my family ... but a month later
they said that there was only one heartbeat. My disappointment
was worse than I could have imagined, even though I have a lovely
After our work on this I felt enormously better. London
When a twin disappears, the surviving twin may develop emotional
problems, even if the child is not told that a twin vanished. Dr.
William Baldwin wrote in Spirit Releasement Therapy that a dead twin
attaches its soul to the surviving twin. Dr. Alice Rose wrote in Coping
with Eating Disabilities that some eating disorders are the result of a
twin dying in the womb due to competition for nourishment. But one twin
cannot eat the other, as is sometimes reported. That's a myth-take.
Dr. Michael Newton, author of Destiny of Souls, disagreed
with the notion of twin souls. He wrote that his clients have
primary soul-mates rather than twin souls.
died during childbirth ... I always felt sad about this, but I created a very
successful business as if I was two people working together. Thanks for helping
me sort this out! Prague
If a multiple pregnancy results in one live birth, the surviving child
might feel that an important person is missing. This may motivate a search for
the missing person, often called a soul twin or soul mate, with high expectations
of happiness and hopes of fulfillment.
(We also find that people with aborted siblings
often spend their lives seeking, for example, their wounded or missing older brothers or younger sisters).
Are You a Womb Twin?
Are you a womb twin? We can help you explore this issue and
change unpleasant consequences. If you have not experienced
our innovative methodology, perhaps this is an opportunity for
If you search for a soul mate, you will find
transferences - seeming perfect partners
whom you later reject as inadequate. If you transfer
a dead twin onto a living person, your subsequent devotion to and later
dismissal of that person can cause huge suffering, especially if he or she simultaneously transfers a dead sibling onto you. We help people
sort out this and other complex relationship issues.
In Vitro Fertilization (IVF)
In-vitro means in glass. Couples who cannot
conceive naturally may visit an in-vitro or IVF laboratory
where egg cells from the woman are fertilized in vitro, usually
with the husband's sperm. Some of those embryos can be implanted in the woman's
uterus. Most embryos are discarded - very few develop into living babies.
Hundreds of thousands of human embryo die in IVF clinics. Sadly,
unwanted embryos are treated as garbage, although their stem cells may be extracted for
sale or for research. (We are researching the emotional and behavioral
consequences of people created by in-vitro fertilization or by embryo transfer.)
Vanishing twin syndrome was described by Dr. Stoeckel in 1945
as multiple gestation with subsequent disappearance of one or more fetus.
Vanishing twin syndrome is more often diagnosed since ultrasound was used during
early pregnancy. Statistics vary, but about 90% of twins die or vanish
before birth. This is also called Twin Embolization Syndrome.
twin birth rate is about 3% while the twin conception rate
may be 30%.
This suggests a 1 in 3 chance that you shared your mother's
womb with a twin.
The death of a fetal twin is a high risk factor for cerebral
palsy. When a fraternal twin dies in the womb, the prevalence of cerebral
palsy in a surviving twin is increased by a factor of 40 (8%, compared to
a general prevalence of 0.2%), perhaps due to variations in the fetal
blood supply (U
of Liverpool 2003).
Since our last session I have
been feeling a lot better. Although "vanishing twin"
sounds weird, I feel that something has really shifted! I feel a
lot lighter and my sadness seems to have gone. Rosemaree
Shalhoub, Sydney, Australia
Occasionally, a dead fetus (fetus papyraceous) may be found in the
remains of the missing fetus are found within the womb twin
survivor, perhaps in a teratoma tumor.
Occasionally, a tiny skeleton is seen within an x-ray of an adult or
is discovered during surgery. Whichever way, twins can vanish.
2008 Dr. Paul Grabb, a pediatric
surgeon, removed a tumor from the brain of a Colorado Springs infant.
The tumor contained a tiny foot and other partially formed body parts.
If the fetuses of fraternal twins
merge, a chimera is formed with two sets of DNA.
(If the fetuses of identical twins merge ... all body cells
will have the same DNA).
Are You a Chimera?
A womb twin survivor may have different
DNA in different parts of the body. Some eggs fertilized by a sperm cell
split into identical twins. Two eggs fertilized
by two sperm cells create fraternal twins. If one baby develops
with body cells from two different fetus ... the result is called a
chimera ... a fusion of fraternal twins.
A human chimera with two sets of DNA,
in different parts of the body, may experience
a conflict of identity. If a fetus assimilated both male and female cells,
confusion might be anticipated. See
Online Help for Womb Twin Survivors
Part 2: Consequences of Missing, Dead or Vanishing Twins
Some people unconsciously identify with a dead family member -
especially if that person died in a way that induces guilt. Such
identification is common, for example, following a suicide, abortions ...
or the death of a sibling. We often help people change deep-seated
compulsions and identifications.
My twin died during childbirth.
I sought a soul mate all my life ...
but I never connected
that with my
dead twin. I always felt sad ...
and I didn't connect those dots either.
During our sessions
I 'found myself" and now I can
be happy. Ireland
Losing an unborn twin can have strong emotional consequences.
Although behavioral and emotional problems resulting from the loss
of unborn twins are outside the ideas used by most helping professionals,
we offer solutions for these consequences, for issues concerning dead relatives and for
brother and sister problems).
I always sought a soul mate.
My mother told me about two abortions. During our sessions
I strongly felt the presence of a missing child - perhaps one of
or what you called a vanishing twin. Since then I feel much more complete. Spain
Womb twin survivors often show some of
- Avoids finishing projects
- Cannot specify clear goals
- Sense of profound loneliness
- Feels peaceful in cemeteries
- Believes part of self is missing
- Fascinated or obsessed by twins
- Chronic melancholy or sadness
- Dark rings around eyes
- Immature, childish behavior
- Extremely sensitive to people
- May obsess about a perfect partner
- May prefer codependent relationships
- Has miscarriages or stillborn babies
- Life does not make sense
Beliefs, Bonds & Soul Mates
Entanglement with a missing sibling may be
indicated by behaviors based on emotions such as guilt, shame and sadness;
and on unpleasant beliefs that support behaviors such as obsessions,
compulsions, eating disorders or hypochondria. Examples of these limiting
- I feel abandoned and left alone
- My spiritual path is to find my soul mate
- I am guilty for living and I cannot be happy
- I give my life energy to my missing soul mate
- I must find my soul mate or I will always feel alone
We have heard these and similar beliefs from many people who were seeking
soulmates. While being with a twin soul is often described
as profoundly spiritual and inspirational, many people who told us about their Soul Mate relationships often seemed enmeshed in
symbiosis or codependence.
I always felt that a special
woman was waiting for me ... hurting and broken ...
my life mission to find her and heal her.
I was only attracted to immature
Since our sessions I feel complete ... and I want a mature
We help people change
unpleasant emotions, habits.
obsessions and other emotional entanglements.
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