Do you want to manage negative emotions and solve relationship issues?
Are you overloaded with stress?
Does stress interfere with your study, work,
relationships and family?
Are you stuck in stress reactions, phobias, obsessions or compulsions?
While many people adjust to stressful events and move on, do
react to stress with emotional or psychosomatic disease symptoms,
which often cause health or relationship problems?
If you alienated your emotions
and emotional parts of yourself - even many years ago - you may continue to relive
events. This can continue for years -
especially when triggered by something.
The resulting phobias, compulsions, obsessions and stress disorders
likely continue until you assimilate those parts of yourself.
Online Help for Stress
Your maturity might be defined in part, as your
ability to rapidly respond to stressors and to manage feelings
Stress reactions differ from common, everyday emotions. If you lose a partner or a job ... you may feel
angry or depressed. If you lost a partner or job a long time ago, and you
are still angry or depressed, then we can probably help you.
You may experience some frustration, but you can solve most
problems with your own resources (which includes your ability to find other
resources). You may explore options, trying one and another until you remove
the stressor or reduce its intensity.
Stress reactions often include unpleasant emotions and relationship
difficulties. If you were not taught to manage strong emotions or how to solve
relationship problems - you may age regress (lose access to your adult
The most common causes of stress are overwork and
relationship disappointments. Continual stress may result in difficulties at
school or work, social problems, relationship chaos or strange body symptoms.
help people find, recover and integrate the parts
that can be split-off during stress.
Stress reactions can be thought of as exaggerated emotional
or behavioral reactions to stressful events. The reactions usually
occur within a few months of a stressful event (although the
unpleasant feelings or negative emotions may be dissociated or
repressed for years, only to explode later in life).
Stressful events that change the life of a child,
adolescent or young adult include parental separation, family moves,
the loss of a family member or a birth of a sibling.
Sometimes a parent's love can feel more confining than
freeing, more demanding than nurturing. If you were an "emotional partner"
to a parent, you may be a victim of covert emotional incest. If your parent's
fought each other for your love - you may be a victim or parent alienation.
We help people manage the emotions and manage such stress
reactions. As people vary in their experiences, temperament and
therefore in their ability to cope; and as stressors can vary
in intensity, duration and effect, we cannot accurately predict
how many long this is likely to take.
Other symptoms of stress reactions include
suicidal impulses, anxiety, depression, self-harm,
relationship problems and self-sabotage
Who is affected?
Stress reactions seem to occur equally between males
and females at all ages in all cultures. Symptoms of stress reactions in
younger children include tantrums and withdrawal. Adolescent symptoms may
include hyperactivity, while adults more often experience
Unhealthy reactions to stress may seem to be exaggerated
compared to healthier people, and may significantly interfere
with education, work or family responsibilities.
Many treatments for stress disorders
try to dissociate or get rid of symptoms.
We help people manage
their negative emotions and relationship problems.
Symptoms of Stress Reactions
Many stressed adults act like children.
In some cultures,
a man can act childishly if he is sick. This may
not be acceptable
in other cultures, and may be unacceptable for women.
The following are three common groups of symptoms of
stress reactions, roughly based on maturity.
1. Anxiety (mostly children or immature adults)
- Nervous, worried, afraid of change
- Afraid of separation from parents or partner
- Generalized anxiety / agoraphobia (extreme)
2. Behavior (mostly teenagers or age-regressed
- Hyperactivity and Attention
Deficit Disorders (ADD - ADHD)
- Preoccupied with violence &
gore (e.g. TV, computer games and cinema)
- Violates others rights (e.g. bullying, theft)
or societal rules (e.g. truancy, delinquency)
3. Depression (mostly adults)
- Depressed and withdrawn
- Melancholy, crying and tearfulness
- Expresses hopelessness and helplessness
Please consult a
medical doctor about medical conditions.
Simple Solutions for Simple Stressors:
- Decide to avoid or reduce a source
- Dissolve anger or fear that contributes
- Search for options to avoid or reduce the stressors
- Find options that control, remove or
reduce a stressor
- Search for resources that enable you to follow through and change
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