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What is Child Sexual Abuse?
Child sexual abuse occurs when adults use children for
sexual gratification. Sexual abuse may begin with kissing or fondling,
and progress to intrusive sexual acts, such as oral sex and vaginal or
anal penetration. It may be combined with emotional abuse that destroys
a child’s self-respect, for example repeated verbal abuse such as
shouting, threats, and degrading or humiliating criticism, emotional
incest and emotional blackmail.
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Emotional Incest . Emotional
Blackmail . Child Abuse ]
What is Sexual Assault?
Sexual assault refers to sexual intercourse or
attempted intercourse carried out against a person’s desire by the use or
threat of physical force. If a man forces a woman who is not
his wife to sexual intercourse against her will, he commits rape. In some
countries, rape includes sexual intercourse without force, but without
agreement, with a spouse.
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Sexual Dysfunction .
Impotence and Frigidity
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Sexual Solutions ]
What causes Sexual Perversions?
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Theories about Sexual Assault
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- Psychoanalytic Models
- Victim Encouragement
- Family Dysfunction and Incest
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- Psychological Models
- Societal Models
- Soulwork Model
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[ Mother - Son Problems
. Father - Daughter Problems
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1. Psychoanalytic Models
In 1895, Sigmund Freud wrote about the consequences of sexual
abuse, claiming that boys are sexually attracted to
their mothers, and girls to their fathers. Freud tried to explain sex offenders -
"castration anxiety is a failure to resolve an Oedipus
Complex which causes feelings of sexual inadequacy
and a need to be sexually dominant". Hence sexual offences would
be parenting failures.
The psychoanalytic model places the blame of
childhood sexual abuse and incest on the child and the
mother, (which may represent Freud's biography). Freud's models strongly influence
psychiatry. Although widely used by psychiatrists, the psychoanalytic
model is limited:
- No explanations for father-son or
mother-daughter sexual abuse, for incest by other family members nor for sexual assaults
by neighbors, teachers, clergy
or family friends.
- Mothers and children are blamed for childhood
sexual abuse, not the abusers.
- Sex offenders or rapists are seen as mentally sick, even
though the vast majority of perverts show no symptoms of other mental illness.
[ Consequences of Abortion .
End Addictions
. Parental Alienation ]
2. Victim Encouragement
A victim may encourage rape through verbal and non-verbal
behavior, for example by walking alone. A woman accepting a dinner invitation or a lift
home, or visiting a male friend at his home or inviting a male friend into
her own home may be rationalized by a rapist as consent for sex. Vocal
refusals of sex may be perceived as "sex games" and ignored.
- The
victim is blamed for the responsibility for sexual assault
- Men
may deceive women and hide their intention to have sex
- Men may force women to participate in sexual
behavior
[ Relationship Bonds
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Stress Disorders ]
3. Family Dysfunction & Incest
Incest is seen as a symptom of
a sick family, and all family members are responsible for allowing it to occur.
Incest, in a dysfunctional family, is covertly used to keep a
family together. Family dysfunction theory has been adopted by many
government authorities.
Users of this model see the mother as a dysfunctional
wife who does not fulfill her husband's sexual needs, nor protect her
children from him. She absents herself either emotionally or physically
from her children by absence through work or illness, or by being emotionally and/or sexually frigid.
Despite wide acceptance, the family dysfunction model:
- Does not explain other forms of sexual abuse
- Does not explain two thirds of child sexual abuse
- Regards incest as a symptom that keeps a dysfunctional
family together
- Minimizes or denies the
devastating effects of incest on a child
- Proposes that a father has a right to be sexually
serviced by females
- Argues that a father imposes sexual
demands on whoever does the housework
Mothers rarely ignore incest. In America, about 75% of mothers
react to disclosed incest and 60% take immediate action, in contrast to
the predictions of this popular model.
4. Psychological Models
Psychological models focus on identifying
the personality profile and motivations of sex offenders. Some
personality characteristics have been associated with sexual abuse.
- introverted or withdrawn behavior (few or no friends)
- feelings of masculine inadequacy
- need to dominate and
control family relationships
- often adept at lies, evasions, excuses,
justifications and blame
Research shows that abusers come from all social
backgrounds; and do not suffer from known mental illnesses, nor do they
necessarily have other criminal tendencies. This model perceives sexual
abuse against women and children as normal male behavior.
5. Societal Models
Social change can eliminate child abuse and sexual assault,
by changing:
- the balance of power between men and women
- the balance of power between adults and children
- abusers' responsibility for sexual assault
Societal models explain sexual assault in terms
of social structures. Abuse is considered to be a facet of a patriarchal
society, and sexual abuse and sexual assault are a result of legal, social,
economic and political systems which enforce male dominance over women and
children. These models predict that men ...
- see wives and children as property
- express dependency through sex
- use sex to reconfirm their sense of self
- are stimulated by the genitals of preferred sexual objects
- desire sexual partners who are younger and smaller than
themselves
This approach does assign responsibility to a sexual abuser,
but argues that socialization contributes to sexual abuse and that women and
children are passive, vulnerable and unable to resist.
The Soulwork model includes systemic factors about the
victim, the abuser and the family as well as social and cultural
factors. Soulwork provides a flexible framework which places responsibility with the abuser,
while recognizing the influences of the abuser's history, family and culture.
Soulwork Systemic Coaching offers solutions for
both the victims and perpetrators of sexual abuse and sexual assault.
Soulwork provides models that practitioners can use to prevent, alleviate
or control the unpleasant consequences of sexual abuse and emotional incest.
Soulwork coach training also provides proven ways to dissolve
the underlying emotional causes of...
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