Are you impulsive?
Do you want to transform obsessions,
manage compulsions or change limiting beliefs?
Who is Obsessive or Compulsive?
Many people want more
motivation ... and some people
want less. If your motivation is too strong, you may be called
obsessive, compulsive or even addicted. Sometimes it's wonderful to
not feel motivated to do things that you don't want to do.
Some people follow their habits mindlessly and let their
habits dominate their lives. Do you endlessly criticize yourself?
Do you count things or check something many times? Do you follow
rituals, such as touching items in a certain way?
If you cannot manage your motivation, you might be called
impulsive or obsessive compulsive.
Do you count how often a dog barks, or the number of passing
cars? Do you endlessly play songs in your mind? Can you
easily stop playing video games or internet surfing?
Are you a prisoner in your own mind,
endlessly counting the bars of your cage?
We can help you transform obsessions and compulsions
into ordinary temptations.
Obsessions are thoughts that keep returning - often as
fixed ideas or limiting beliefs. Compulsions are habits
such as washing or compulsive eating
that interfere with enjoying life. Both are created in relationship
disturbances and disappointments - and often include
Obsessions and compulsions may be why many chain letters and computer
viruses spread. Regardless of the stupidity of the messages
- some people have to read them and have to follow the
instructions. Many salespeople take advantage of people who have obsessions
and compulsions. They can be told what they want.
Obsessions may be combined with or complicated by other
symptoms - such as symptoms associated with trauma,
and emotional incest.
If obsessions affect you, consider finding solutions before
they get worse.
'We may not be able to choose the
situation in which we find ourselves,
but we can always, always, choose how we will respond'.
Symptoms of Obsessions & Compulsions
You may feel embarrassed about your obsessive thoughts -
maybe they don't make sense, or seem crazy. You may try
to hide your compulsive habits, because you know they look strange.
You may feel alone and afraid - but still you cannot stop.
Obsessions and compulsions are similar to some addictions,
such as gambling or sex, and to some symptoms of PTSD. They
often have a similar cause. If you are trying to deal with trauma or
emotional incest, you may be trying
to escape from unpleasant feelings or trying to avoid negative emotions.
If you have symptoms like these, you may feel irritable, angry and
withdrawn. As a child, you may have been accused of temper tantrums,
stubbornness or other problems. As a teenager,
you may have been accused of fighting your parents or avoiding school.
Obsessions can take a child's time and energy, leaving less
time for homework or household chores. Children may feel they
must do their rituals exactly right, to avoid feeling bad. They
may feel stressed before they go to school or to bed.
Such children may feel exhausted, physically sick or have stress-related
symptoms such as headaches or upset stomachs. They may worry about
bacteria and toxins, and about being perceived as crazy. If
a child's behavior is labeled as frustration or anger,
parents may punish the child for showing these emotions.
If children grow up with lies ... then lying is normal. Sometimes lies becomes addictive,
- most people lie if they feel that lying will
help them gain something, but compulsive liars seem to lie naturally. Words are just words, aren't they?
Obsessive Shopping & Compulsive Buying
Businesses spend millions to influence your behavior. Marketing programs are
often designed to induce obsessions, and they are effective. Do you buy things you don't need
with money you can't afford to impress
people that you don't like?
Spending can be like any other addiction. Our solutions include helping you
replace your motivation to shop with motivation to do something that you want
more. This requires that you know what you want more. Do you?
Drugs & Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder
Many health professionals prefer medication to conversation. Although antidepressants may
not affect OCD symptoms, you may be prescribed clomipramine (Anafranil),
fluvoxamine (Luvox), fluoxetine (Prozac),
citalopram (Celexa), sertraline (Zoloft) or paroxetine (Paxil).
These drugs affect blood serotonin - a chemical that
nerve cells use to communicate. Serotonin receptors are spread
throughout the brain, so its uptake and release can affect a
huge part of your life. See Side Effects
of Common Drugs.
Toxic Family Traditions
Many obsessions and compulsions reflect toxic family traditions. Have you ...
- identified with another person?
- lost access to parts of yourself?
- lost access to most of your identity?
- identified with two people who were in conflict?
As most obsessions and compulsions reflect relationship issues,
we find it strange that so many people are advised to solve relationship issues
by taking drugs.
Solutions for Obsessive Behavior
Do you want to manage your emotions and the compulsive behaviors and habits
that those emotions may motivate?
I used to make and remake
my bed, endlessly rearrange our children's toys,
and do other things
seem ridiculous now. I had been seeing a
therapist for three years. When you said
five or six sessions, I thought you
But in the second session, I found a
very frightened child
in my mind ...
you helped me love her.
By the sixth session
I seemed to have mostly healed myself.
Many obsessions seem to reflect toxic secrets
within families, and compulsions often seem to compensate for
identity loss. We help motivated people
find a stable sense of integrity and resolve emotional and relationship issues.
Change Impulsive Behavior, Obsessions
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