Are you entangled in relationship problems or painful emotions?
Do you suffer from your parents' drama or your partner's moods?
We help people manage their emotions and untangle their lives.
Male impotence and female frigidity are common partnership
problems. Both refer to an inability to enjoy normal sexual activity or to
experience the pleasure of orgasm. Sexual dysfunctions are often consequences of
earlier emotional issues.
We help people manage their emotions. If ignored, sexual
problems can increase the likelihood of a partner's sexual affairs
... or divorce. Such problems can be caused by abandonment,
betrayal, emotional incest, promiscuous behavior, parental alienation, affairs and abortions.
The emotions underlying sexual dysfunction often
center on guilt, anger and anxiety, all of which can sustain terrible
limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging inner dialog.
(Note: The only people that we met
with Freud's classic Oedipus,
Electra complexes had been
psychoanalyzed or had
been trained in Freudian psychodynamic therapy).
As sexual dysfunction often reflects relationship problems, we
help many people achieve lasting results by helping solve relationship conflicts. We help people
- Hypersexuality (sex addict) - constant
- Erectile dysfunction - a man cannot
sustain an erect penis;
- Premature ejaculation - a man
ejaculates faster than he wishes;
- Vaginismus - a woman's vaginal muscles
contract during intercourse;
- Dyspareunia - a woman experiences
significant pain during intercourse;
- Anorgasmia - inability to achieve
orgasm despite normal sexual stimulation;
- Hyposexuality (inhibited sexual
excitement) - sexual arousal only with difficulty;
- Ejaculatory impotence (inhibited male orgasm)
- a man cannot achieve orgasm in a vagina (although he may
reach orgasm by masturbation).
Angle of Dangle ... Male Impotence
Approximately 10% of all men will one day be unable
to achieve or maintain an erection, which means that they become unable
to participate fully in sexual intercourse. This often seems to be a consequence of depression or
- Common risk factors for male impotence include age,
anxiety, stress & relationship conflicts.
- Some drugs have side effects that can contribute
to impotence. These include diuretics, tricyclic antidepressants,
beta-blockers, and hormones.
- Physical causes of impotence include trauma and
disease such as: diabetes; pelvic surgery;
spinal injury and glandular problems.
Erectile dysfunction may be expressed in
early adolescence as an inability to achieve erection; but more
commonly happens after years of normal function.
Ejaculatory impotence is a male inability to ejaculate within a
sexual partner's vagina. An erection may be maintained for long periods,
even after the partner has achieved orgasm. Ejaculatory impotence usually
has an emotional basis which reflects relationship problems.
Millions of men now use Viagra to treat
impotence & erectile dysfunction ... but ...
- Viagra will not solve relationship problems
- Viagra will not improve your relationship skills
- Viagra side effects include facial flushes,
headaches, digestive distress and a blue tinge to vision
Women who are not sexually aroused before or during sexual
intercourse may be accused by men of being frigid. Such
frigidity has three distinct symptoms:
- cannot achieve orgasm (anorgasmia)
- can achieve sexual arousal only with difficulty
- does not enjoy sexual activity (either with
a specific partner, or generally)
Female frigidity may be caused by sexual abuse, emotional
incest, trauma, vaginal spasms or pain during attempted
intercourse. As with men, female sexual response may be impaired
by relationship problems and other emotional causes, or can be
triggered by emotional conflicts, anxiety or other stresses.
I enjoyed mothering my husband until I felt that I was
with my son. At that point I couldn't make love with him
- and that's when I started having sexual affairs.
Emotional Blocks and Beliefs
Emotional blocks that limit sexual pleasure can take many
forms. Negative emotions are often combined with limiting
beliefs to form mental habits, such as:
- I can't ...
- I am helpless
- I am worthless
- I must be certain
- I am afraid of failure
- I worry about change
- I am scared of success
- I must punish my partner
- I am afraid of making mistakes
- I am angry about past disappointments
Emotional beliefs often seem to dictate or predict what people experience.
Changing emotional beliefs can allow people to regain their lives.
My mother always said that sex
was disgusting and humiliating, and that decent
women had to pretend
to like it ... my husband had to threaten to leave me
we got your help. And now ...
well ... sex is wonderful. Ireland
Emotional beliefs are often relationship bonds ... ways of
feeling connected to certain people. We
help people to change limiting beliefs and emotional bonds.
Solutions for Sexual Issues
Left unresolved, sexual dysfunction increases the
likelihood of partnership problems and depression. We
help people alleviate mental discomfort or sexual dysfunction, especially
if the dysfunction involves strong emotions or difficult relationships.
An important tissue is self-esteem
... if you dislike yourself, perhaps due to guilt after some betrayal or due to shame
following abandoning someone, you may feel that you cannot enjoy life. Contact us to explore and
change your negative emotions.
Please consult a physician about any opinions
impotence or other medical conditions.
We help many people manage their emotions and solve relationship
problems, including sexual challenges. Contact us to solve emotional conflicts
that limit or prevent partnership pleasure and sexual intimacy.
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