We help gay people manage their negative emotions,
heal their relationships and change their limiting beliefs.
In 1973, the American Psychiatric Association removed
homosexuality from its list of mental disorders. The APA stated: “Human beings
cannot choose to be either gay or straight ... sexual orientation is not a
conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed.”
You are under attack!
Are you besieged by conflicting, contradictory and useless relationship
advice? Does poor guidance damage your relationships? In many countries, parental mentorship is
being replaced by television, cinema and music. (Listen carefully to
your favorite love music - many songs celebrate symbiosis
Few corporations profit from healthy, happy, mature people -
while there are huge profits to be made from unhealthy, unhappy
and immature people. Unhappy people distract themselves in expensive
ways and buy tons of antidepressants.
If you are gay, some people will attack you. If you do not conform to their
standards, they prefer that
you are unhappy. Claiming good
intentions, they want you to change.
Being gay is about as common as being left-handed, and many people
view being gay as an abnormal third sex. They want gay people
to hide - or suffer. Many gay men become closet queens or professional artists. And more and more gay people are holding important
Most advice is actually criticism (and most criticism seems to
be autobiography). Good coaching and quality training can help you solve
Recognizing Relationship Problems - Gay, Bi or Lesbian
How do you know when a relationship has problems? Do you wait for pain
and suffering? Some signs may warn of the end of a relationship. If you
see a few of them, consider our couple counseling. (These issues
apply to all couples).
- Intimacy seems to have died.
- You feel trapped and exhausted.
- Your partner doesn't share time with you.
- Your partner is not interested in your feelings.
- Your partner tells other people important news first.
- You look forward to going to work ... or going anywhere
- Your partner doesn't consult you before making major
Important Questions for Gay / Lesbian Partners
When we coach gay or lesbian couples, we note that most partnership
problems and life challenges are very similar whether
straight, bi or gay. Common questions are:
- Can we help you enjoy better relationships?
- How can we coach your relationship?
- Who coaches you on your relationships?
- Is one relationship coach as good as another?
- How can our relationship coaching benefit you?
- Is our relationship coaching a wise investment?
- What problems can you solve with a good relationship coach?
Relationship Coaching Answers
1. Can we help you enjoy better relationships?
Yes. We can focus on your happiness and success, rather than offering
philosophy or psychobabble about your problems and why you have them. We can
help you evaluate and change your everyday behavior ... apart or together.
Your decisions and your subsequent actions will determine your success.
We cannot stop you feeling depressed about depressing
situations. We can help you manage your emotions and solve relationship
The worst blocks are self-sabotage
and identity loss. Your success and
happiness require your motivation and participation! We can help you
find your own meaning and purpose - we won't try to give you ours!
2. How can we coach your relationship?
3. Who coaches you on your relationships?
We can help you manage difficult emotions and solve relationship problems.
While some conditions are different in each relationship, mature people
can improve the quality and quantity of their relationships - whether
straight, gay, lesbian or bisexual .
Many people offer you advice - even your hairdresser.
Your decision to get our help to solve your relationship problems may depend on:
- How much you have suffered
- Your emotions and emotional habits
- The quality of your other relationships
- Whether you see coaching as stupid or as an investment
4. Is one relationship coach as good as another?
coaches vary. Some are very religious, some New Age and some very
technical. Maybe check a coach's experience and results. Check their
beliefs and biases. Who do you feel that you can you trust? Who is homophobic?
Who may try to seduce your partner?
Many young, single people call themselves "partnership
coaches" or "dating experts" etc,
although they have minimal experience in committed
partnership or parenthood. After a few questions they may suggest that you split! That's what they would do!
Good coaches walk their talk -
others just mumble their stumble!
5. How can our relationship coaching benefit you?
A good coach can help you recognize the roots of your problems,
clarify your goals, improve your skills, change your beliefs,
resolve your conflicts, manage your transferences, solve your entanglements and encourage your decisions.
An experienced helping professional can warn you of consequences. Many
people are fixated on or emotionally enmeshed with a parent,
and clarifying and resolving these relationships can trigger changes
in life direction!
6. Is our quality relationship coaching a wise investment?
Some helping professionals seem obsessed with techniques
and expect to bend people to fit their ideas. They over-use simple questions
and cannot untangle complex relationship problems. Young,
single people may not appreciate the challenges of long-term
partnership or the conflicts of parenting.
You can best benefit from people who are trained and
experienced in many relationship problems
- including couple and family counseling, and team coaching.
7. What problems can a relationship counselor help you resolve?
Besides evaluating your goals and blocks, we help people clarify:
- Relationships with past partners
- Codependence and emotional incest
- Issues about morals, ethics and integrity
- Relationship decisions, fights and conflicts
- Relationship diagnosis: planning and skill deficiencies
- Poor quality advice (from parents, friends,
- Family and societal influences (limitations
Find a psychologist with experience ...
many only have papers.
Few people are taught healthy relationship skills at school, and few
parents are wonderful role models for happy partnership. If you have
problems in creating or maintaining healthy relationships - consider
benefiting from our relationship coaching.
We help people manage emotional problems,
end self-sabotage, change unwanted habits and build healthy
relationships. Contact us to turn your life around.
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