Your maturity is a blessing for you, for your partner,
for your children and for your colleagues.
Emotional blocks can be you outside your awareness. They often reflect
relationship problems or embarrassing experiences. They are often
attached to unpleasant limiting beliefs that cause you to feel connected to important people -
hence we often refer to them as bonds.
If you feel that life sabotages you - are you
sabotaging yourself? Do you approach difficulties as lessons and challenges, or do
you take them as proof of some unpleasant beliefs? History is
full of people who experienced worse difficulties than you - and succeeded
anyway - primarily because of their clarity, persistence and sense of purpose.
Origin of Emotional Blocks & Limiting Beliefs
Psychologists noticed that babies and toddlers
are much more sensitive to nonverbal communication than adults (at the beginning
of the 20th century it was believed that babies were not aware of physical pain,
let alone emotional suffering). Children accept their experiences - including
pain and suffering - as normal. Then they create conclusions (often
exaggerated and generalized ideas) that become beliefs.
Babies have no prior experience by which to
assess their world. They are more like sponges that absorb experience ... week
after week, month after month, year after year. By the time they are adults,
they won't remember their early experiences although they remember their emotions
That is why it's so difficult to understand what
created these issues. Many people believe that having emotional problems means
having been intentionally abused. But in most cases, children create
emotional problems and limiting beliefs based on the behavior of family
members, especially parents.
Many times we hear people say, "I don't
remember anything unpleasant about my childhood" or "My parents
always cared about me." And they are probably right! Still, we live in a
challenging world and every child will experience some unpleasant situations.
Many unhealthy behaviors, emotions and beliefs are spontaneously
transferred from generation to generation.
Was your mother was warm and caring - but full of anxiety or
guilt? If so, chances are that you believe that anxiety and guilt are
normal. Maybe something was missing in your
family - happiness, motivation, self-esteem, fun? If you always
felt that something important was missing - the missing qualities
may later manifest as obsessions.
Here is where we can help. We developed focused and effective
ways to help people uncover and change what lies in their subconscious
minds. We help people clear up a wide range of emotional and relationship
issues - not only trauma, but unconscious fixations and identifications,
long-term conflicts and unhealthy relationships.
Blocks, Beliefs & Goals
Your limiting beliefs and self-sabotage may
become painfully obvious as you step towards your most important goals. This
is why many people - unconsciously - avoid making clear goals.
Emotional blocks can prevent you being peaceful,
happy and successful - and if you are successful - prevent you from enjoying
your success. Most emotional problems are rooted in trauma, even blocks
about a current problem or some potential crisis that hasn't happened -
and maybe will never happen.
Emotional blocks include unpleasant feelings
such as frustration, boredom, anxiety, sadness and irritation. People spend a
lot of money trying to avoid these feelings ... enough to support multi-billion
dollar industries that provide drugs and distractions.
Emotional blocks can create relationship and
health problems. If you want to lead a full, integrated life and create the life
experiences you truly want, you can learn to explore and transform the feelings
that you have avoided or kept bottled up for many years.
When you feel unable to handle a crisis, do you feel emotions
such as fear, anger, confusion, anxiety, guilt, or inadequacy? If
in these moments you feel immature, you cannot think clearly
about the crisis, and you may be unable find appropriate solutions.
See Emotional Maturity
Emotional blocks are often intertwined with limiting beliefs.
We often hear people say things like "I feel bad because
I know I can't succeed; and I can't succeed because I feel so bad".
Exploring emotions and changing beliefs needs either a lot of practice or
help from an experienced coach.
If you pay attention to your inner dialog (self-talk),
you may find beliefs that can lead to anxiety, irritation and
depression. Such beliefs can sap your motivation and hinder or
prevent you from finding creative solutions to your problems.
Positive and Negative Emotions?
In 20 years of helping people change emotional problems, I have
never found a negative emotion. I have met plenty of people with
negative emotions and feelings that they tried to get rid of, deny
or forget. But never a negative emotion. I find nothing
negative about anger, sadness fear or guilt, etc.
So-called negative emotions are supposed to include
feelings such as: apathy, grief, fear, boredom, hatred, shame,
blame, regret, resentment, frustration and hostility. Yet each
emotion has at least one purpose and each has at least one
blessing - in appropriate situations.
All emotions are right and justifiable in some context - and
irrational in other contexts. So called positive emotions
such as interest, enthusiasm, laughter, empathy, action and curiosity
can get you into deep trouble in an inappropriate context.
Are you carrying negative emotions
and limiting beliefs from your childhood?
Your parents were probably doing the best they knew how to do,
entangled with their own parents and trying to give their children
whatever they lacked when they were young. With good
intentions, they may have given you emotional problems.
Do you feel bad about your parents' partnership,
or remorse about their lost opportunities? We can help you unpack, explore and
organize your emotional baggage.
Mature people know what they want, how they feel and why they feel
that way. They find solutions to problems quickly.
They have similar challenges to less happy people - but healthy people
deal with them much faster. Healthy people don't get stuck for long ...
they rarely sabotage themselves.
Emotional blocks and limiting beliefs can
hurt you and the people you love. Entangled relationships with parents,
grandparents, etc, can cause chaos and suffering. These enmeshments can
diminish your ability to enjoy your life and your relationships.
Appropriate Emotional Reactions
We help people change emotional problems and
limiting beliefs. Emotional blocks can include
cultural and family values and beliefs that motivate or demotivate action.
We have many effective
ways to help people safely untangle their emotional baggage and sort out
their stuff. We help people change or replace their legacy of limiting
beliefs, irrational emotions and unwanted habits ... with compassion ... and
Don't Recycle Emotional Blocks ... Change Them!
Your willingness to untangle your emotions and
beliefs reflects your maturity and your mental health! The benefits of
dissolving these issues include an increased feelings of wellbeing, relief,
confidence and motivation. Contact us to find solutions
for emotional problems and self-sabotage.
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