We offer dream coaching, Dreamwork,
and teach people to use these skills in counseling and therapy.
Dreaming Together is an integral part of our systemic psychology.
In Your Dreams
We help people understand and change themselves, their emotions,
their relationships and their lives! One way that we coach people is
in their dreams - our Dreamwork extends our systemic coaching.
We use it mostly to help people sort out complex issues for which
people do not have the conscious resources - e.g. challenging goals,
negative emotions, limiting beliefs and demanding relationships.
We help people test and verify their dreams with their own
experiences. Thus, our dreaming together,
whether daydreams, repetitive dreams or nightmares, takes the
form of structured interactive metaphors that enable most people
to explore and change beliefs, emotions and relationships.
We have helped hundreds of people explore sleeping, waking and
lucid dreams. We consistently find that people are only partly aware
in their waking life. If we explore your dreams, we explore all areas
of your life. Through our Dreamwork, we can help you learn to anticipate
problems, become more fully aware, and deal with parts of life that
you tend to overlook or ignore.
It can be fascinating to notice themes that are many dreams share.
There are often significant links between dreams, and more recent
dreams may modify earlier dreams. Dreamers can learn to be aware that their
dreams may present their history during a dream. Some dreams seem to offer
or integrate key events from the past and present them in dreams.
Some dreams present material that the dreamer has overlooked or
ignored. Dreamers can use their dreams to be more alert to their
lives. Lucid dreams often us offer deep wisdom for our waking lives. Sometimes
it feels like you can dream a dream until the dream dreams you.
We help people explore their beliefs, emotions and habits in their
dreams - where they can be changed. Limiting beliefs, unpleasant
emotions and unwanted habits cannot be easily changed by willpower
alone. They are often taboo. But they are also the basis of
decisions about reality and life direction.
Deep beliefs are often at the root of problems that cannot
be discussed - they manifest as family taboos. Such beliefs are often gained by people
wanting a success that
challenged the beliefs of parents or other authorities.
Many strange beliefs are accepted as truths only because they
were communicated by parents, teachers or other authorities.
Rejecting beliefs from important people is close to rejecting
those people, with a risk of being rejected ourselves. Thus, while
these beliefs shape ourselves and our reality, we cannot reconcile
them with our ideals, which may trigger dissatisfaction and failure.
If our potential achievements may contradict these accepted beliefs,
then we may block or sabotage our success and chances of happiness.
Our Dreamwork explores these blocks and can expose their dynamics
and structure. Do you want to open the doors
to achievement and a more satisfying life?
Are You the Dreamer? ... Or the Dreamed?
My interest in dreams and Dreamwork began in Hawaii in the
1980's, with two friends who were also studying huna with native Hawaiian
healers. Together we researched Moe 'Uhane and
Ho'omoe - dreams and dreaming together
of pre-contact Hawaii ... and we explored some strange realities.
Dreaming may be older than human consciousness. When I
watch sleeping babies and sleeping animals move their limbs and body, while
making unusual sounds, I assume that they are dreaming. Dreams seem to
assimilate or integrate events, and perhaps evaluate future possibilities.
Since ancient times people have searched for the meaning of
dreams. Dreams seem to be one way that people connect their emotional reality
to the physical world. Psychologists say that an awake human mind is limited
to holding about seven things in consciousness. It seems that a sleeping
human mind (unconscious, subconscious or body-mind) can simultaneously manage
thousands of things ... for example, the details of dreams.
In ancient Egyptian healing,
one relief for mental problems was to sleep in a temple. The island of Philae
was said to be a center of temple sleep. Dreams would be
influenced by expectations of supernatural powers;
and were interpreted by priests.
Temple at Philae (Photo: Przemyslaw Idzkiewicz)
Many books are available about interpreting the content
of dreams, which are often written as if every reader uses the same symbols
as the author, regardless of their history, family and cultural background.
Be wary of the claims of dream analysts ... whose dreams are they analyzing?
Daydreams, Meditations & Visualizations
Can you imagine yourself on a beach in Hawaii? Or shopping in Paris
with a platinum credit card? If you feel out of sync with the world,
you can create some retreats. Can you
picture and feel yourself in places you'd like to go to, or doing things you
might like to try? Driving a new Mercedes convertible? Parachuting? Climbing
Mount Everest? Sailing in the South pacific ... with somebody special?
Athletes often power-dream before competitions. They imagine themselves
winning a race, or skiing a challenging hill or moving through their gymnastic
movements. They see themselves doing each move perfectly ... (and if they are
smart they also see themselves gaining awards or recognition).
If you remember the touch and feel of a lemon ... cool, heavy
and a bit greasy ... and how your fingers feels when you peel it ... and now
imagine biting it. Probably you mouth fills with saliva. Your body glands are
responding to your imagination ... your dream ... not to external reality.
Does the name Pavlov ring a bell?
Hawaiian Dreamtime: Moe Uhane
In old Hawaiian shamanism, unusual or recurring dreams were considered
significant, and worthy of exploration. To better recover the details of
a dream, and to find the meanings, an expert (kahuna)
might join people within their dreams. Hawaiian Dreamwork is called
moe'uhane - dreams of the spirit or lucid dreaming - and is a
potent key to open the door of
I have been exploring moe uhane and developing Dreamwork since
1988, and I developed some very useful methods for using and changing
dreams in coaching, counseling and psychotherapy. My feedback
and responses are persistently positive and often phenomenally so.
Many anxiety attacks or depressions are like waking
nightmares, and the methods I developed for changing dreams are often
valid. Hawaiian shamanism
and ho'omoe includes awaiku
- angelic assistance.
We help many people manage unpleasant dreams and recurring
nightmares during our Dreamwork.
(I integrated dream coaching into our systemic training ...
we teach it on our Systems 3 training.)
Dreamscapes & Nightmares
If you have nightmares
connected to relationship violence - please
seek advice from appropriate professionals about the violence.
We often help people find relief from nightmares, which usually reflect
relationship and emotional problems. We may offer to dream with you.
We may gently enter your dreamscape with you, and together we can explore
and understand the often-confusing and sometimes scary imagery. In this
way, we can help you integrate your
conflicts, clarify your relationships or assimilate trauma.
I had terrible dreams about a demon
- I was avoiding sleep and becoming ill.
Since your dream work
I can enjoy sleeping again. Croatia
Dreamwork is particularly useful when we help people change
limiting beliefs, negative emotions or dysfunctional relationships. Our dream
coaching also helps people find lasting solutions for unpleasant or disturbing
dreams and recurring nightmares. If your nightmares are due to anxiety about some
crisis or traumatic event, we can ask your unconscious mind what solutions you want!
Dream Coaching: Dreaming Together
Entering a dream reality is like entering Pandora's Box.
Neither of us know what to expect. First, forget any books of
interpretations of dream symbols, at least for now ... we usually find
that events and symbols in your dreams have many messages, not only one.
Also, many scary dreams are those of inner children
- split off parts of you that got stuck in some crisis or trauma
and never grew up.
Dreamwork is no place for arrogance! You can have such interesting dreams,
filled with layers of rich symbolic meanings and emotional significance, often
reflecting your relationships, goals and emotions. In dreamtime, we can dream
dreams together that can change reality!
If you have unpleasant or recurring dreams - contact us.
Caution: exploring the nightmares
of disturbed people can be
traumatic for unskilled or inexperienced helping professionals.
We train counselors and therapists to use Dreamwork.
Ho'omoe wai kahi ke kao`o.
Let's travel together like water flowing in one direction.
Do you want to change unpleasant or recurring dreams?
Online Dreamwork, Dream Counseling and Therapy
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another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.
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