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We present interactive seminars and
demonstration-rich workshops on systemic family coaching,
developmental disorders, family secrets and relationship bonds.
Email us if you might be interested in a workshop in your area.
Part 1: Developmental Disorders & Systemic Coaching
Symptoms associated with developmental
disorders, psychological and emotional disorders overlap with
a different systemic diagnosis. Systemic coaching offers solutions for many of
these disorders.
[
Systemic Coaching & Mental
Health ]
Stop what stops you solving your problems!
Developmental and personality disorders
are common. Mild cases may be
called personality traits, and severe cases may be called
psychosis. The severity of symptoms often reflects relationship stress and possibilities for
emotional release.
Systemic coaching assumes that members of a
family influence each other. Common family entanglements
include:
- parents who are entangled with their
own parents
- partners who are entangled with past partners
- children who are entangled with their
siblings
- uncles, aunts, cousins and
close family friends
Entanglements, transferences and codependence are often expressed by symptoms of
identity loss.
[ Relationship
Bonds & Identity Loss .
Schizophrenia & Identity Loss ]
Systemic Models
Systemic coaching models identity loss,
and its consequences called developmental problems and personality disorders
in psychology and psychotherapy:
- cybernetic (feedback loops amongst family
members)
- structural (family hierarchies)
- functional (dysfunctional symptoms have functions and
benefits)
- relationship (confusion of relationship
types has predictable consequences)
- evolutionary (families evolve in
predictable patterns)
Most families try to solve their problems by their
own rules. If the rules are toxic, this often makes problems
worse. Systemic family coaching can help family members:
- identify their feedback loops
- expose their underlying entanglements
- dissolve their relationship entanglements
- develop appropriate communication skills
- plan the family's development
Adaptive learning (change in behavior) can be
followed by generative learning (change in the structure of a
relationship system). Systemic coaching focuses on evolutionary
learning (changing the identities of the members) and systemic
learning (changing the identity of the system).
[ For more, see Knowledge Management
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Substitution and Transference in Coaching
All relationship influences are subject to
substitution and transference. For example, a parent may relate to a
child as if to a partner, leading to the consequences of
emotional incest. The common
varieties are between Mothers and Sons
and Fathers and Daughters.
Deficiencies or injustice in a family systems lead to
a spectrum of symptoms, which often indicate the
function of relationship entanglements. Most medical and psychiatric
diagnosis is symptom based; while the systemic
relationship diagnosis used in
Soulwork systemic coaching focuses on identifying the underlying
relationship entanglements.
Treating symptoms while ignoring underlying
relationship entanglements can lead to short-term change, typical of
applying medication, esoteric and cognitive approaches to emotional or
relationship disorders.
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Symptoms of Developmental Disorders
- Aggression and perhaps violence
- Alienates parents, caregivers and authorities
- Antisocial attitudes and actions
- Behavioral and learning problems at school
- Cannot express trust, intimacy and affection
- Hopeless and pessimistic view of self, family and society
- Lacks empathy, compassion and remorse
- Lacks self-esteem and self-control
- Lonely - cannot maintain healthy friendships
- Maltreats their own children when they are parents
- Needy and clingy, or pretends independence
- Withdrawal and perhaps depression or psychosis
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Attachment Disorders .
Adjustment Disorders ] |
Systemic Diagnosis & Systemic Coaching
Psychiatric or psychological diagnosis is
of limited value in systemic coaching, which uses non-symptomatic
systemic diagnostic formats:
- Relationship Diagnosis (Family Matrix)
- Goal Diagnosis (Goalwalk, Goal hypnosis
and Conflict maps)
- Relationship History (Timeline; Memories
and Expectations)
A Soulwork coach is more likely to examine relationship history - with less focus on
personal history.
Do you want relationship coaching or systemic coach training?
Do you want to coach people to resolve emotional and relationship challenges?
Link to Part 2 - [
Personality Disorders ]
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