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Do you want relationship coaching or
systemic coach training?
We can train you to coach individuals, partners and teams to resolve a wide
range of emotional, educational and relationship challenges.
Can you Cope with Change?
Stress happens. Stress happens every day. Stress is a
normal part of life. Most people can adjust to a stressful event and
move on.
But stress may interfere with your study, work, friendships
and family. You may express stress as behavioral problems,
psychosomatic or physical disease symptoms,
and learning disorders.
Soulwork systemic coaching can help you adjust to stress,
usually in four steps:
- Recognize your need to avoid or reduce a stressor
- Search for choices or new options
- Search for resources that enable you to use your options
- Find an option that controls, removes or reduces
your stressor
Life Coaching & Adjustment Disorders
Adjustment disorders differ to everyday stress and
emotional problems. If you lose a partner or a job and you are depressed,
then depression may be diagnosed. If you lost a partner or job
two years ago, and you are still depressed, then you may have a
systemic (relationship) problem.
You may experience some frustration, but you can solve most
problems with your own resources (which includes your ability to find other
resources). You explore options, trying one and another until you remove
the stressor or reduce its intensity. Your emotional maturity
might be defined in part as your ability to rapidly respond to
and control stress.
Some people cannot control or adjust to stress.
Perhaps you were never taught stress control; or the stressor is
too much for you to handle. Your inability to resolve
stress may be diagnosed as age regression,
immaturity, emotional incest, emotional trauma,
post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), psychosis or other
possibilities.
If you experienced high stress and
your symptoms impair your life, then
you may have an adjustment disorder. Important parts of your life may
include difficulties at school or work, social problems, legal difficulties,
relationship chaos or symptoms of disease .
Control Stress . Emotional
Incest .
Parental Alienation
. Schizophrenia |
What causes Adjustment Disorders (AD)
An adjustment disorder is an exaggerated emotional or
behavioral reaction to a stressful event or change. The
reaction usually occurs within a few months of the identified event or
change (although the unpleasant feelings may be dissociated or repressed for
years, only to explode later in life).
Stressful events that change the life of
a child, adolescent or immature adult include a family move, parental
separation, the loss of a family member, and the birth of a sibling.
Adjustment disorders are stress reactions. Children,
adolescents and adults vary in their experiences, temperament, vulnerability
and therefore in their ability to cope; and stressors can vary in intensity,
duration and effect.
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Synonyms |
AD,
mental illness, PTSD, psychiatric disorder, non-psychotic disturbance,
sub-threshold disorders, sub-threshold syndromes, psychosocial
stressors, maladaptive reactions, stress disorders, suicide, suicidal
ideation, suicidal impulses, anxiety NOS, depression NOS, self-harm,
self-poisoning, psychopathology, stress reactions, relationship chaos,
schizophrenia |
Who is affected - and how?
Adjustment disorders are common and occur equally in males
and females at all ages in all cultures. Symptoms of adjustment disorders in
younger children include tantrums and withdrawal. Adolescent symptoms may include hyperactivity, while adults
more often experience
depression.
In adjustment disorders, the reaction to the stressor
seems to be exaggerated, and may significantly interfere with education,
work or family responsibilities.
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Reality Check |
Most
treatments of adjustment disorders attempt to get rid of the
symptoms. Soulwork coaching controls or replaces the underlying
emotional responses to relationship changes. |
Symptoms of Adjustment Disorders
The following are the three most common groups of symptoms
of adjustment disorders, roughly based on maturity. (Mixtures of symptoms
are common. A person who oscillates between two different symptom sets may
be expressing a systemic disorder called Identity Conflict.)
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Age Regression |
Age-regressed adults act like children. In some
cultures, it may be acceptable for a man to act childishly if he is
stressed or ill. This may not be acceptable in other cultures, and may
be unacceptable for women. |
1. Anxiety Symptoms (mostly children or age-regressed adults)
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Nervous, Worried, Afraid of change
- Afraid of separation from parents or partner
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Generalized Anxiety / Agoraphobia (extreme)
2. Behavioral Symptoms (mostly teenagers or age-regressed
adults)
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Preoccupied with violence &
gore (e.g. TV, computer
games and cinema)
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Hyperactivity and Attention Deficit Disorders (ADD
- ADHD)
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Violates others rights (e.g. bullying, theft) or societal rules (e.g. truancy,
delinquency)
3. Depressive Symptoms (mostly adults)
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Depressed and withdrawn
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Melancholy, crying and tearfulness
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Expresses hopelessness and
helplessness
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Reality Check |
Some symptoms of adjustment disorders may resemble medical or
psychiatric conditions. Consult a physician for a complete
diagnosis. |
Emotional Incest
. Learning Disabilities .
Parent Alienation
Systemic Coaching
Remedies for people with adjustment disorders include:
- Coaching to improve
impulse control, anger management, stress management and communication
skills
- Couple Coaching to
resolve problems between partners
- Soulwork Family Coaching
to increase awareness,
sensitivity and family support
- Medication for severe symptoms may be
prescribed by a medical doctor
Mother-Son
Entanglements .
Father-Daughter Entanglements
Control Stress .
Prevent Learning Disabilities .
Parental Alienation
Consult your physician about any opinions or recommendations
about medical symptoms or other medical questions.
Do you want relationship coaching or
systemic coach training?
We can train you to coach individuals, partners and teams to resolve a wide
range of emotional, educational and relationship challenges.
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