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Abortion affects "sense of life".
People affected by abortion may become unable to feel joyously connected to their
colleagues, friends, partners, families, humanity or to their God. If human connectedness
can be replaced by depression and suffering, then abortion is a spiritual issue.
Are you affected by abortion?
Abortion provides fast relief and delayed suffering. The
consequences of abortion can include depression, mourning, shame, self hatred,
insomnia, anger and aggression. Our post-abortion counseling helps people control and
minimize the consequences of abortion that may be suffered by the parents, surviving
children, other family members and the abortionists.
Are other children affected?
Following an abortion, other children in the family may
experience depression, obsessions about babies, or eating or sleep disorders.
Frequently, a living child identifies with an aborted sibling - see
identification with a dead person -
with predictable, unpleasant symptoms.
Consequences don't care about good intentions!
We help people
alleviate the relationship consequences of abortion, which occur even if the
mother was raped or if the child was diagnosed with a genetic disease.
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Spiritual
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I don't regret
my abortions for a minute. The drugs
make you sleep so you don't see anything bad. My problems were
gone and I can keep on having fun ... and my boyfriends are happy too. HA Boston, Mass |
Life gives birth to life
Most adults want to find partners and raise babies to independence.
Adults who cannot have children may may dedicate
themselves to some social or religious cause or they may obsess about
substitutes for partnership and children, or about helping children. Or they may
suffer depression.
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I am 15
years old. My parents just told me that they had an abortion before I was
born. All my life I felt that someone was missing ... My parents
murdered my older brother. DB Vancouver, BC |
Who benefits from abortion?
Today, about 150,000 pregnancies will be ended by
abortion. Abortion is a big business that offers high incomes for those people
able and willing to provide it. Although the financial and social benefits of abortion may seem obvious
to a pregnant mother, to an unwilling father and to an abortionist, the
consequences can be more expensive.
Who really suffers?
Children require attention, time
and endless love. After an abortion, damaged relationships and depression may be
ignored, or attributed to other causes. An
abortion may "make sense" - for example if a pregnancy endangers a
mother's life, or is the result of rape. But consequences don't care about good
intentions. Other family members and particularly other children are likely to
suffer following abortions are other
children - even if the abortions are secret.
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My boyfriend said he would leave me if I had
his baby. My mother said an abortion was best ... she told me later that she had
an abortion at my age. So I had an abortion. Now I can't hardly look at them. PT London, UK |
Health Consequences of Abortion
Have you arranged an abortion or pressured someone to have an
abortion? Are you involved in the profitable abortion business? The total cost of
an abortion may include:
- Breast, cervical, ovarian and liver cancer
- Uterine perforation and cervical laceration, causing bleeding,
fever, and infections
- Sterility (infections occur in about 30% of abortions)
- Subsequent ectopic or tubal pregnancies (due to scar tissue)
- Miscarriages and premature births in subsequent pregnancies
- Post abortion syndrome - from depression to suicide
- Emotional problems of partner, siblings and surviving children
Abortion is a Family Issue
Partners, parents,
siblings and other children experience post-abortion reactions. Anger,
depression, guilt and broken relationships are common. Anybody who
pressures a person into having an abortion may be later unable to enjoy
a relationship with that person.
The consequences of abortion can be painful and distressing.
Yet all people affected by abortion can find healing and peace with
systemic solutions.
Relationship Consequences of Abortion
Abortion affects "sense of life". People affected by
abortion may become unable to feel joyously connected to their friends, partners,
families, humanity and to their God. If
human connectedness is replaced by depression and suffering, then abortion
is a deeply spiritual issue.
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When my girlfriend got
pregnant, I was pleased ... I wanted to marry her and become a husband
and father ... she had an abortion without
asking me ... I hope I never see her again! DP Florida |
We remedy many relationship and emotional consequences of
abortion with Systemic Solutions, which includes post-abortion counselling.
Depression
Pleasure may be senseless if you have hurt a child - or a
potential child. Guilt results from hurting people. Following an abortion, you
may depress
your life. Some common are:
- Avoid completing essential tasks
- Ignore personal hygiene
- Avoid keeping track of finances
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- Do things that create problems
- Consider self-harm or suicide
- Ignore important problems
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Although . Systemic Coaching can help you resolve
guilt issues, if you believe that you deserve to suffer, you may
avoid this opportunity for relief and happiness.
Depression
. Anxiety .
Stress .
Suicide
Relationship Health & Relationship Coaching
We help people improve relationships. For many people, aborted children
are important relationships. Yet many people try to forget about abortions -
immature and irresponsible people prefer that someone else carry their baggage
and suffer their consequences.
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should not write about such things. You make people feel even worse that we
already feel. People don't want to know this stuff. They just want to forget
about it. JN Ohio |
Post-abortion coaching helps parents regain intimacy
following an abortion, and avoid separation or divorce, especially when a loss of
intimacy follows a decision to abort a child. (A miscarriage caused by
stress or violence often has similar consequences to an abortion.)
Ultimatum: lose the baby or lose me
A woman may have an abortion following an
ultimatum: that either she has an abortion or the partner leaves. If a
man insists that his potential child be killed, despite his partner's desire to
give birth to a living baby; this couple may not regain their earlier intimacy
until the guilt issues are resolved.
Post-abortion coaching is integrated with marriage counseling and couple coaching,
and helps couples rebuild intimacy and commitment.
Missing Children
Siblings of an aborted child may be troubled
by nightmares and disturbing dreams of being chased by monsters or dark
ghosts, or that someone wants to kill them.
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My young
daughter had recurring nightmares ... she was chased by a bad woman
with a knife who wanted to cut her into pieces ... she does not know that I
tried to abort her. KS, Warsaw, Poland |
Couple coaching
includes post-abortion counseling and can resolve abortion issues.
Abortion & Birth Order
During
relationship coaching an abortion is often described (felt or experienced) as a
"black hole" in the family matrix. Other children may sense this
"hole", and be strongly affected by it, perhaps with nightmares of being
trapped, or of being chased - often by a "man with a knife".
Family Secrets & Injustice
Following a secret abortion, other family members may sense
that something is wrong. This feeling of wrongness is often experienced by
family members of subsequent generations! A potential child was killed at
the parents’ request.
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Aborted children are reincarnated ...
I was reincarnated after I was aborted
by my parents ... I told my parents that I AM their dead child ... they do not
need to grieve me! HL, Wien, Austria |
If a child identifies with an aborted child, he or she tries to
compensate for the aborted child. The surviving
child may grow up melancholic and highly sensitive. (This includes psychic
sensitivity - many psychics boast about their dead “spirit helpers”). Such a child
often is often fascinated by death, cemeteries and horror films, etc, yet is
not afraid of death. See: Dead Person Identification
Failed Abortions
Occasionally, we meet people whose parents tried to abort them,
and failed. Such children may grow up distrusting their parents, and may have a phobia
of hospitals, clinics etc. We
have explored phobias of old women, often in Catholic countries in which
abortion was illegal, in which the originating emotional event appeared to be an
illegal abortion that failed to kill the fetus.
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I had two abortions. I should
have had three, but I left the third too late and the doctors wouldn't kill it.
I love her even though she is always miserable and angry. Please help her. PO Oregon |
Consequences to Abortionists
An abortionist may become dissociated (unable to feel any emotions)
and unable to maintain intimate relationships or long-term happiness. They may search
for distractions instead of a meaningful life; resulting in obsessions and addictions.
The partners, children and grandchildren of abortionists may reflect guilt with
symptoms of depression, anxiety, learning disabilities and psychosomatic disease.
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As a
medical doctor I have advised many women to have
abortions ... and I have seen most of the consequences that you describe ...
I'm not sure that my advice was so good. MD Dallas, Texas |
Since you started reading, another two thousand more abortions
have just been made. Most of those baby bodies are now in garbage containers and
a few are being used for research. Many of these deaths will have consequences
that the parents, families and abortionists are not prepared for. Consequences don't care
about your good intentions - and your burden can be heavy. Ask us about post-abortion coaching.
Consult your physician about any opinions about medical symptoms or other medical questions.
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systemic coach training?
We can train you to coach individuals, partners and teams to resolve a wide
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