If sense of life can be replaced by guilt, shame
and depression, then abortion is a deeply spiritual issue.
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of Abortion : 2: Relationship Consequences of Abortion
Spiritual Consequences of Abortion
Abortion offers high incomes for those people who are able and willing to
provide it. Whether or not abortion is murder, and whether or not a fetus can
experience pain are legal and medical opinions. However the relationship
and spiritual consequences of abortions don't seem to
care about good intentions nor professional opinions.
I already described some emotional
consequences of abortion. Here I focus on the
consequences of abortion on
your long-term happiness and that of your family. (This is also
relevant to other situations where children die - including
accidents, murder, miscarriages, still-births, cot deaths and vanishing twins.)
During an abortion, the key people are the mother, the father and
the aborted child, although abortions, miscarriages,
stillbirths and cot deaths often affect siblings - even
those who are not told. A common reaction is chronic or
lasting sadness - many people affected by abortions (or family secrets)
have no idea about why they are suffering, depressed or sad. Many people look
for a missing soul-mate.
The financial, medical and social benefits of abortions may seem
obvious, while relationship problems, guilt and depression are be ignored. For me, spiritual consequences are about
damaging your sense of life.
A conspiracy of silence seems to surround the
well-documented suicides of women who have had
Primary Consequences - Disconnection
A common consequence
of abortion seems to be an inability to feel joyously connected to
families, partners, friends, communities, humanity or
God. If sense of life can be replaced by shame
and suffering, then abortion is a deeply spiritual issue.
Guilt, Shame & Clarification
Guilt depresses life. Being joyous may not make sense if you
killed a child, or allowed your child to die. We help people manage guilt issues result from having hurt or betrayed people. Most
people perceive a living fetus as a potential child.
People often describe some sort of unpleasant feeling that
seems to limit or block the expression of love and happiness within
a family. As we help people explore and assimilate their blocks -
secret abortions, miscarriages, stillbirths or crib deaths often
become obvious. When we coach people to clarify their relationships, many are
surprised to identify a dead child as a significant relationship.
You told me that my problems would make more
sense if my mother had an
between my brother and me. I asked my mother and she said that she did have
abortion at that time -
in another town under a false name - and that
not even my father - knew about it. Poland
Abortion & Intimacy
An abortion often decreases intimacy between
partners. Sometimes separation or divorce follows an
abortion, although the couples may not recognize that
their separation is a common consequence of abortion.
If a woman arranges an abortion unwillingly, following an
ultimatum from her partner, that either she arranges an abortion or he
leaves, it seems likely that such couples will cease enjoy an intimate partnership, even if they
physically stay together.
Similarly, if a pregnant girl is told by her parents to get an abortion
or to leave the family home - it is hard to imagine happy family reunions after
such an event.
If a woman has an abortion despite the father's desire for the child
to be born, the consequences may include the end of intimacy,
although the couple may stay together for financial or other practical reasons.
I was happy to be pregnant,
but my husband made me have an abortion.
He threatened to leave if I didn't kill my baby. I got an
abortion, but afterwards
I just felt like a cold fish in bed. It was two bad years before
we divorced. London
Ghosts, Abortions & Lost Children
Many people describe feeling haunted by ghosts
or spirits. They are often seen as dark shapes
close to the person, or felt as unpleasant cold feelings. Such experiences may
trigger or cause depression and prevent
As many religions forbid abortion, parents arranging abortions may feel a
diminished relationship with their families, communities and with their God.
We found that this diminished sense of life seems to be
equally true for agnostics and atheists.
The birth order of children
is important. Subsequent children, even if not told, may describe a hole in the family, and be strongly affected by it.
Compensation for Death
Following an abortion, the first pregnancy of the next born
sibling often results in a miscarriage or is deliberately
aborted, and/or the next living child often show signs of
a dead person (e.g. chronic sadness or melancholy).
Often the next-born sibling of an aborted child will make a lifelong search
for a soul mate. Some people find and marry a person who seems to have the
missing qualities. In this way, a hole in a family
can be filled - temporarily at least.
following secret abortions, other family members may
feel that something is not right, that something is missing.
help people dissolve such blocks and move on.
Identification with a Dead Person
If a living child unconsciously identifies with an aborted fetus, that
child may grow up melancholic and highly sensitive to other
people (this includes psychic sensitivity - many psychics
and spiritual healers boast about having dead spirit helpers). As
children, they may be fascinated by death, dying and gore.
Occasionally, we meet people whose parents tried to abort them in a back street
failed. Such children seem to grow up fearful and highly distrustful of one or
both parents. It seems that babies can feel what
happened in the womb, and respond to a
mother's emotions even before birth.
Consequences to Abortionists
In our experience, people who profit from abortion may become increasingly
dissociated (few if any emotions) and callous towards human life. They may become unable to enjoy intimate relationships, spiritual experiences or
happiness. Instead, they more often seek for distractions from an empty life.
Your writing about abortion is
nonsense. Abortion is not murder anymore than
liposuction, and the proper term is 'abortion
doctor,' not 'abortionist. Anonymous email
The families of abortionists and abortion clinic staff
may search for distractions instead of happiness, and experience
depression instead of joy. Their children may have a higher risk
of depression, learning disabilities and psychosomatic disease.
Reality appears to have a spiritual dimension which can transform whatever it touches. Spirituality
is about acquiring virtues that support long-term happiness ... and we
often develop virtues during uncomfortable conditions.
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