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Pain Control
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Dissolve Conflicts
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Systemic Solutions: Coaching Procedures
How to Solve Emotional & Relationship Problems 2003

Online Help: Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

Life Coaching & Family Counseling

We researched how healthy people manage emotions and solve relationship issues, and we created algorithms to replicate their success and end self-sabotage. We help people evaluate and resolve unwanted conflicts, beliefs and identify issues.

Individual Coaching / Counseling Flowchart

Soul Work Life Coaching Flowchart

Following relationship assessment and goal-work, we help people manage emotional issues and solve relationship problems. This can include resolving conflicts, changing limiting beliefs, managing negative emotions and repairing damage from trauma, emotional incest, parental alienation and other forms of abuse.

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Our work can be readily assimilated into marriage counseling, and many forms of psychotherapy and family therapy. Our flexible structure supports rapid change and lasting self-healing with tangible results.

Couple Coaching . Family Counseling

Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

There is a huge overlap between the conversations called coaching, counseling and therapy. The differences are mostly semantic, often based on arguments about "Who used this word first?"

Generally, therapy aims at helping people solve past complaints while counseling provides guidance for current difficulties. Therapy is more about restoring function while life coaching is more for planning future success.

Is that clear? While they are all conversations about how to solve emotional problems and achieve relationship goals, therapy is more about past history; counseling is more about present challenges, while life coaching is more about future success.

This next flowchart summarizes our algorithm for family coaching and counseling:

Soul Work Life Coaching Flowchart

Are you ready to manage your emotions and resolve relationship situations?

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I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email