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Martyn Kahekili Carruthers & Systemic Solutions
"Who is Martyn Carruthers" by Jan (Skyhook) Sikorski

Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy

Martyn Carruthers founded Soulwork systemic coaching, and continues to develop and teach it. He has helped many people improve their sense of life by cleaning up negative emotions and solving relationship problems. These are often first steps towards people knowing what they ant and finding ways to achieve their goals.

Many people ask us about solutions for many life challenges. The variety of their challenges may at first seem impossibly overwhelming, yet Martyn devised a format that helps most people manage and change the basic dynamics of their lives.

Many people unconsciously sabotage their own lives, their own relationships and their own success. He helps people explore their habits, emotions, beliefs, relationships and helps them change how they allow other people to sabotage their own dreams - and how they may thoughtlessly sabotage the dreams of other people.

I would not believe this had I not seen the results, experienced them for myself and then used Martyn's methodology to help other people. Perhaps I can answer the question, "How is this possible?"

Martyn once told me, "I have seen and heard many terrible things, some of them all the more terrible because they were normal". He gave me some examples, and he was right. People have many little secrets behind their closed doors - and some secrets are destructive to partners and children.

Martyn says that there are some things only families and communities can heal - yet many people live in unhealthy families or communities. Individual success (e.g. financial wealth, selfish pleasure or even happiness) may trigger strong repercussions and unpleasant reactions from other family or community members.

Martyn (INTP, if that means anything to you) said that some human systems need sick, weak or unhappy members, and if one person becomes too healthy or too happy - someone else may become ill to balance it - all too often a child.

Many people carry anxiety or anger inside, but hide it. Martyn helps people to feel their loss, grief or sadness - whatever - and change it from the present to the past (and sometimes from the past to the maybe-never-was). If people are basically healthy, this can be so fast - Martyn asks a few strange questions and you can almost hear people changing their minds, often while laughing at their own situations.

Some people ask Martyn for free work. Martyn says that he charges for his time and his experience and that people's results come from themselves - not from him.

Martyn tailors his coaching to each person, and his changework usually includes changing emotions, habits and limiting beliefs. He encourages people to speak their truth and be heard. He helps people gain sense of life as they change limiting habits and achieve their goals. When Martyn is not training counselors and therapists, he may help people clarify and change their emotions and relationships.

For Answers to Common Questions: See FAQ
Systemic Solutions For information about the origin and development of Martyn's systemic coaching see Origins and Human Consciousness
Soulwork Coach Training Most public Soulwork trainings are presented by Martyn Carruthers and Kosjenka Muk in Europe, with occasional international workshops.
Specialist Coaching Martyn's specialties include expert modeling and couple-coaching. Kosjenka specializes in family, parenthood and communication, Stephen specializes in manager development and sales. Magda provides inner-child work and Marinka offers coaching in educational issues ... and more.
Personal Coaching We offer both private and online services or you can organize an event and bring one of us to you.
Online Life Coaching We offer online services to students and clients using Skype and web cameras.
Mentorship We often provide mentorship and practical tips to other helping professionals such as coaches, therapists & counselors. We may coach their clients in a conference call so that everybody benefits.
Trainer Training Martyn's and Kosjenka's training is based on demonstrations. Our trainers can demonstrate effective coaching with almost any person. This requires massive experience that can only be gained in private practice. Contact us.

Martyn emphasizes safety, ecology and results in his coaching and training.

Although the content of Soulwork sessions is determined by each client's or couple’s needs, there are a few fundamental principles in our coaching philosophy.

  • Relationships can only be fulfilling if people cooperate.
  • Each member needs to know that they share similar goals.
  • Each member resolves differences in ways that satisfy everybody.

If people's goals and values do not support cooperation, Martyn's separation coaching helps people end relationships with minimum suffering.

Relationship Tips

Martyn translated a systemic philosophy into an effective approach to marriage/relationship counseling. He helps people solve relationship problems, change habits, change beliefs and solve fixations and transferences.

He helps people replace old habits of symbiosis, co-dependency and power struggles. As people's relationships become anchored in friendship and teamwork, trust opens the doors to increased intimacy, affection and joy. Some tips are:

  1. Recognize problems before they arise
  2. Keep your skill level and self-esteem high
  3. Good intentions do not ensure good relationships
  4. Good relationships don't just happen - they are created
  5. Consequences do not care how good were your intentions
  6. Children carry their parent's unresolved emotional baggage
  7. Many (most?) people sabotage their own relationship happiness

Relationship Skills & Systemic Solutions

There are no limits to the happiness of good relationships ...
... nor to the suffering of bad relationships.
Immature relationship skills can make any relationship difficult.

Martyn trains people to improve relationships, to resolve conflicts and discuss sensitive issues peacefully. These systemic relationship skills training follows years of research and practice.

Relationship skills form a hierarchy related to emotional maturity. If people stop developing - at any age - then their relationship skills often remain stuck at that age. In a crisis, they may act like children. Martyn's Soulwork systemic coaching can help them untangle whatever delayed their progress.

Do you want to enjoy a sense of life that is only available to the emotionally mature?

Contact us to manage emotional and relationship challenges?

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I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Jan Sikorski 2004-2018
All rights reserved.

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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email