Martyn Carruthers founded Soulwork systemic coaching, and continues to develop and
teach it. He has helped many people improve their sense of life by
cleaning up negative emotions and solving relationship problems. These are often
first steps towards people knowing what they ant and finding ways to achieve
Many people ask us about solutions for many
challenges. The variety of their challenges may at first seem impossibly
overwhelming, yet Martyn devised a format that helps most people manage and change
the basic dynamics of their lives.
Many people unconsciously sabotage their own lives, their own relationships and
their own success. He helps people explore their habits, emotions, beliefs,
relationships and helps them change how they allow
other people to sabotage their own dreams - and how they may thoughtlessly
sabotage the dreams of other people.
I would not believe this had I not seen the results,
experienced them for myself and then used Martyn's methodology to help other
people. Perhaps I can answer the question, "How is this possible?"
Martyn once told me, "I have seen and heard
many terrible things, some of them all the more terrible because they were
normal". He gave me some examples, and he was right. People have
many little secrets behind their closed doors - and some secrets are
destructive to partners and children.
Martyn says that there are some things only families
and communities can
heal - yet many people live in unhealthy families or communities. Individual
success (e.g. financial wealth, selfish pleasure or even happiness) may trigger strong repercussions
and unpleasant reactions from other family or community members.
Martyn (INTP, if that means anything to you) said that
some human systems need sick, weak or unhappy members, and if one person becomes too healthy
or too happy -
someone else may become ill to balance it - all too often a child.
Many people carry anxiety or anger inside, but
hide it. Martyn helps people to feel their loss, grief or sadness -
whatever - and change it from the present to the past (and sometimes from the
past to the maybe-never-was). If people are basically healthy, this can be so fast -
Martyn asks a
few strange questions and you can almost hear people changing their minds, often
while laughing at their own situations.
Some people ask Martyn for free work. Martyn says that he
charges for his time and his experience and that people's results come from
themselves - not from him.
Martyn tailors his coaching to each person, and his changework usually
includes changing emotions, habits and limiting beliefs. He encourages people to
speak their truth and be heard. He helps people gain sense of life as they
change limiting habits and achieve their goals. When Martyn is not training counselors and therapists, he
may help people clarify and change their emotions and relationships.
For Answers to Common Questions: See
about the origin and development of Martyn's systemic coaching see
|Soulwork Coach Training
Soulwork trainings are presented by Martyn Carruthers and Kosjenka Muk
in Europe, with occasional international workshops.
||Martyn's specialties include
expert modeling and couple-coaching. Kosjenka specializes in family,
parenthood and communication, Stephen specializes in manager
development and sales. Magda provides inner-child work and Marinka
offers coaching in educational issues ... and more.
||We offer both private and
online services or you can organize an event and bring one of us to you.
Online Life Coaching
||We offer online services to students and clients using Skype and web cameras.
||We often provide
mentorship and practical tips
to other helping professionals such as coaches, therapists & counselors. We
may coach their clients in a conference call so that everybody benefits.
||Martyn's and Kosjenka's training is
based on demonstrations. Our trainers can demonstrate effective coaching
with almost any person. This requires massive experience that can only be
gained in private practice. Contact us.
Martyn emphasizes safety, ecology and
results in his coaching and training.
Although the content of Soulwork sessions is determined by each client's or
couple’s needs, there are a few fundamental principles in our coaching
- Relationships can only be fulfilling if people cooperate.
- Each member needs to know that they share similar goals.
- Each member resolves differences in ways that satisfy everybody.
If people's goals and values do not support cooperation, Martyn's separation coaching helps people end relationships
with minimum suffering.
Martyn translated a systemic philosophy into an effective
approach to marriage/relationship counseling. He helps people solve relationship
problems, change habits, change beliefs and solve fixations and
He helps people replace old habits of symbiosis, co-dependency and power struggles. As people's relationships become anchored in
friendship and teamwork, trust opens the doors to increased intimacy, affection
and joy. Some tips are:
- Recognize problems before they arise
- Keep your skill level and self-esteem high
- Good intentions do not ensure good relationships
- Good relationships don't just happen - they are created
- Consequences do not care how good were your intentions
- Children carry their parent's unresolved emotional baggage
- Many (most?) people sabotage their own relationship happiness
Relationship Skills & Systemic Solutions
There are no limits to the happiness of good
... nor to the suffering of bad relationships.
Immature relationship skills can make any relationship difficult.
Martyn trains people to improve relationships, to resolve
conflicts and discuss sensitive issues peacefully. These systemic relationship skills
training follows years of research and practice.
Relationship skills form a hierarchy related to emotional maturity. If people
stop developing - at any age - then their relationship skills often remain stuck
at that age. In a crisis, they may act like children. Martyn's Soulwork systemic
coaching can help them untangle whatever delayed their progress.
Do you want to enjoy a sense of life that is only available to
the emotionally mature?
Contact us to manage emotional and relationship challenges?
Online Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy
I thought you were just
another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.
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