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Martyn Carruthers & Systemic Solutions
By Jan (Skyhook) Sikorski

Online Life Coaching & Training

Martyn founded, develops and teaches Soulwork Systemic Solutions. He coaches people to develop their sense of life by ending self-sabotage and by defining and solving relationship problems, with friends, partners, children, students, team members and communities

Martyn devised ways to help people identify and change how they sabotage their own lives, their relationships and their success, how they allow other people to sabotage their dreams - and how they may sabotage the dreams of other people.

I dishonor myself if I worry about reputation. Many people criticize what they do not understand. I believe in my work, I write about it and I try to defend it from theft. I have done enough fence-sitting. Martyn 2004

So many people sabotage their own happiness - usually following unchallenged beliefs and continuing habits from their families and communities of origin. Martyn tailors his coaching for each person, so his changework may include changing emotional habits, memories and beliefs. He encourages people to speak their truth and be heard. He helps people gain sense of life as they change limiting habits and achieve their goals.

For Answers to Common Questions: See FAQ
Systemic Solutions

For information about the origin and development of our systemic coaching see Origins and Human Consciousness

Systemic Coach Training

Most public trainings are presented by Martyn Carruthers and Kosjenka Muk in Europe, with workshops in Chicago, Hawaii, Singapore, South Africa and Australia. See Training Calendar

Specialist Coaching

Martyn provides in-house coaching & training, expert modeling and relationship coaching. Kosjenka specializes in family issues, Emanuel in financial coaching, Kreso in clinical psychology and Marinka in education ...

Personal Coaching

We offer online & telephone coaching or you may come to us; or you can organize an event and bring one of us to you.

Coaching Tips We often provide mentorship and tips to coaches, therapists & counselors.
Trainer Training Our training is based on demonstrations. Our trainers can demonstrate effective coaching with almost any healthy, motivated adult. This requires experience that we feel can only be gained in a coaching practice.

Martyn emphasizes safety, provocation and compassion in his trainings

Tips for Systemic Coaches

Instead of jumping to conclusions, I now communicate honestly and respectfully.
Since your coaching, I no longer choose to be a victim and am moving forward with life.

  • Recognize problems before they arise
  • Keep your skill level and self-esteem high
  • Your good intentions do not ensure good relationships
  • Good relationships don't just happen - you create them
  • Consequences do not care how good were your intentions
  • Children carry their parent's unresolved emotional baggage

Relationship Skills & Systemic Solutions

There are no limits to the happiness of good relationships ...
... nor to the suffering of bad relationships.
Deficiencies in relationship skills will make any relationship difficult.

Martyn teaches people to coach others to improve relationships, to resolve conflicts and discuss sensitive issues peacefully. His systemic relationship skills training follows years of research and more years of practice.

Some of the academics I meet are predators. Perhaps they have to be that way to survive academia. They more often want to plagiarize our work than create their own. Martyn 2004

Relationship skills form a hierarchy related to emotional maturity. If you stop developing - at any age - then your relationship skills remain stuck at that age. In a crisis, you may act like a child. We help you untangle whatever delayed your progress - and catch up on the years in between.

We coach people to enjoy a sense of life that is only available
to the emotionally mature.

Online Life Coaching & Training

Do you want to manage emotional problems and relationship challenges?

I thought you were just another therapist - but you were not just. Not even. Not only.

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Jan Sikorski 2004 All rights reserved.

If you like our work, please link to us. If you know someone who might benefit,
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Soulwork systemic coaching in America & Hawaii


Soulwork systemic coaching in England, Wales & Scotland

Soulwork systemic coaching in Croatia & Serbia

Soulwork systemic coaching in Poland



Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do emotions block you? Relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright © Martyn Carruthers 1996-2018  All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email