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Are you in Trance? Martyn Carruthers & Kosjenka Muk

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You already know how to live a healthy life.
You already know the benefits and the risks.
So why do you eat fast foods or take drugs to feel good?

This is for people who want to triumph over the hypnotic,
manipulative marketing that has been imposed on them since childhood.

Healthy Lifestyles

Healthy lifestyles are not about starving yourself, becoming a nutrition expert or living on an organic farm. Doctors such as Angelo Cuzalina agree that healthy lifestyles are about feeling great, having energy and enjoying relationships with healthy people.

The most pervasive obstacles to our happiness are poverty, starvation and disease. Healthy people maintain an adequate income, eat healthy food and exercise regularly. Is that so complicated? Or are you losing the battle for your mind?

How many of your purchases are the result of post-hypnotic suggestions?

Few people profit from your good physical or mental health. Many people profit when you and your family eat sh... sugar and distract yourselves with consumer goods. Many people profit if you have immature obsessions, compulsions and juvenile desires. Many people profit from the medical consequences of unhealthy lifestyles. Where there's profit - there's marketing and competition.

How can a company entice you to buy their 100% greaseburger (guaranteed to have no healthy ingredients), or another labor-saving device so that you can watch more TV? By logic? By appealing to your intelligence? By inspiring you to greatness? Or by implanting unconscious obsessions?

Death by Supermarket - the Battle for your Body

Healthy living includes not only what you eat, but why you eat it and what you do with your extra energy. Many people start diets and quit ... often heavier than they were before. Discouraged, they return to their mostly-unconscious eating habits, which are strongly influenced by the hypnotic marketing of processed fast-foods ... marketing often designed by professional psychologists to sell sugar and salt at a huge profit.

Foods are substances that are ingested by organisms to maintain life.
Food choices depend upon availability, marketing, price, marketing, personal history, marketing, children's desires and marketing, as well as nutritional needs.

Most healthy choices begin with emotional maturity. Children crave sweet foods and may eat them until they are sick. Children love greasy fast-foods and may pressure their parents into another all-you-can-stuff-down lunch. For children, the four food groups seem to be sugar, fat, starch and deep fried salty things. And some children don't grow up.

Are you conscious - or are you sleep-walking?

While no combination of foods can completely protect you against disease, you can reduce your risk of disease by consuming more fruit and vegetables and less processed food, sugar and and fats. But as you already know that - what stops you? Have you been hypnotized by marketing campaigns?

Do you know all this - and still live an unsatisfying, unhealthy lifestyle? Perhaps you learned to associate food with love as a baby. Often the first foods after breast milk are processed fluids made of sugar and chemicals. Were you conditioned that sugar + chemicals = love?

Processed foods can be addictive. Many taste good, especially to children, who often control what their parents buy! Many processed foods stimulate endorphins, feel-good chemicals that cause emotional highs. Healthy people fulfill their emotional needs with healthy relationships and activities - not with food or drugs. Yet many people depend on commercial food products (e.g. chocolate) for their emotional pleasure.

Drugs & Medications

Drugs are substances which, when absorbed into the body of a living organism, alter
normal bodily function
.
World Health Organization 1969. Expert Committee on Drug Dependence.

Do you take psychoactive drugs (including tobacco and alcohol) to cope with reality ... or to escape from reality? Nicotine can dissociate fear and diminish a sense of stress ... for a while. Alcohol helps many people deal with guilt ... for a short time.

Do you control depression, rage or anxiety with drugs? Some solutions are worse than the problems. Fluoridation, for example, just may be good for teeth - but it is used to make people docile (the Nazis put it into their concentration camp water).

Distractions

Fun is wonderful - especially fun shared with family and friends. Most children excel at playing - yet many forget how to play as they get older and most teenagers excel at sharing. Trouble starts if having fun alone becomes normal ... perhaps as a way to avoid sharing.

The difference between men and boys is the price of their toys. American idiom.

Do short-term distractions divert you from lasting happiness? Are you more interested in things than in people? How many hours each week do you watch television or play with a computer? How about walking around shopping malls? Do you medicate yourself? Are you inspired to live your life ... or are you just putting in time?

Unhealthy Relationships

For most children, love is quality time with their parents - children spell LOVE as T-I-M-E. Many teenagers believe that LOVE is the answer to all their problems ... some cling to fantasies that LOVE can heal their lives. Most teenagers grow up and become more realistic by age 30. And some don't ... we meet plenty of teenagers over 40.

Most children depend on their parents. Most teenagers long to be independent. Most adults want to share their lives with compatible partners. Healthy relationships create a sense of shared security - a sense of connectedness. Healthy relationships between strong, independent people can last a lifetime. Unhealthy relationships can cause tremendous anger, anxiety, depression and stress.

Don't sleep with anyone sicker than you!
The price tag may be much higher than you can imagine.

Unhealthy relationships can trigger negative emotions, which can generate a variety of compensation behaviors, including limiting beliefs about living healthy lifestyles.

When Too Much is not Enough

A consumer culture encourages you to consume cars, larger homes, televisions, computers, gadgets, etc. Marketers will tell you that you deserve it all and can have it all. Positive thinking requires massive self-deception. What would be are the consequences of continually repressing unpleasant possibilities and thoughts?

The adoption of a healthy lifestyle and successful treatment of lifestyle diseases requires that you manage emotional challenges as well as the physical and financial consequences of unhealthy lifestyles. Common emotional consequences are depression, limiting beliefs and relationship problems.

Depression

Depression is often a healthy response to a life that lacks meaning. If life seems pointless or you feel guilty for having hurt people, your happiness may not make sense. Life can also lose meaning as a result of injustice or transference, for example:

  • Confused relationships (e.g. perceiving a parent as a partner)
  • Betrayal or abandonment (e.g. betraying a partner or abandoning a child)

I was so proud of my body. I enjoyed women's envy and making men crazy.
Since I got fat, nobody notices me ... without my looks I am nothing.
Frankfurt

Beliefs & Relationships

Beliefs about the cause, seriousness and treatment of lifestyle diseases are so important. Limiting beliefs are often relationship bonds to family members or to authorities such as teachers, doctors, therapists etc.

Relationship issues resulting from anger, stress and trauma are integral components of unhealthy lifestyles. Stress heightens the effects of poor diets, and may lead to the secretion of hormones that disrupt metabolic control. The most common negative emotions that relationships trigger appear to be guilt, anxiety, anger and sadness.

Please consult a physician about any opinions about medical issues.

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Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 2003-2017, All rights reserved


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Have You Suffered Enough?

 Where are you now? Understand your emotions, fixations and enmeshments
What do you hope for? Know your goals and stop sabotaging yourself
Do you feel resourceful? Learn to develop your inner resources
Do your emotions block you? Resolve relationship problems and mentor damage
Do your beliefs limit you? Change limiting beliefs and end dependence
Do you feel connected? Resolve identity issues to recover lost resources
Is your partner happy? Build healthy partnership (or separate peacefully)
Are your children healthy? Happy parents better manage family problems
Do you want team success? Team leaders and their teams develop together
Do you have complex goals? Specialty coaching, counseling & therapy

Plagiarism is theft. Copyright Martyn Carruthers 1996-2017 All rights reserved. Soulwork Systemic Coaching was primarily developed by Martyn Carruthers to help people solve emotional problems and relationship conflicts to achieve their goals. These concepts and strategies are for general knowledge only. Consult a physician about medical conditions and before changing medical treatment. Don't steal intellectual property ... get permission to post, publish or teach Martyn's work - email europecoach@gmail.com