Dreaming Together allows deep and innovative changework.
We adapt ourselves to our clients, rather than
insisting that they adapt to us.
Writing about Dreaming Together is a paradox.
If I left this page blank, we could better explore our own reflections.
Do you have emotional issues or endless relationship problems?
Although such issues are often centered around childhood disappointments -
the issues can persist throughout adult life. How can you get off these
help you end self-sabotage and
experience being part of the complex system which includes your memories,
relationships and consequences. Our dreaming together
can be a huge step towards solving your problems and fulfilling your goals.
Dreaming Together: Simplicity Made Easy
In the Hawaiian language, ho'omoe (literally making
dreams) also means traveling together.
Our Dreamwork was inspired by Hawaiian moe uhane, which
I learned from native Hawaiian healers and integrated into our work.
Ho`omoe wai kahi ke kao`o
(Hawaiian: Let us travel together like water flowing in one direction).
When dreaming together, we respect ourselves, other people and the
environment within which we co-exist. We accompany people into their dreams
- into their subjective or emotional realities - while remaining awake,
conscious and alert. We walk with them on these
strange, wonderful and sometimes scary journeys.
Dreaming together is not an escape from everyday routines - it is like
experiencing the cutting-edge of our ongoing reality before we chop it into words.
It interrupts our habits and mind chatter so that we can experience
what's happening now. We can then focus on what we are doing now.
You seemed to hear what I could
not say ... you coached me to coach myself ...
I changed many of my negative beliefs into exciting options ...
Dreaming together provides a highway to integrity (the
Soul of Soulwork) that is central to our work.
Our coaching toolkit, while rather effective, is secondary to it. While
dreaming together, we can create techniques, adapt them and discard
them as we accompany people on their definitive journeys.
You bent your methods to fit
me - you did
not try to bend me to fit your methods!
Dreaming Together is not Hypnosis, Programming or Persuasion!
Dreaming together enables us to accept and apply other
perspectives than our own, to better help people explore emotions
and relationships. Without it, people may feel stressed if we discuss their hidden emotions,
beliefs and relationship issues.
Dreaming together is much more than simple rapport or trust.
This dreamtime work allows us to access a shared sense of
being that includes our memories and our potentials.
Dreaming together provides space within which we can both transform.
(See also Chaos Coaching)
During these shared dreams, many people laugh and cry (often
together) as they describe being intensely present and sensitive to their
feelings, environment and relationships, and to an awareness of,
"How am I choosing to live my life
this moment?" And this eternal moment can last forever.
Can you hear what they cannot say?
Words often disturb true listening.
Words attempt to fill the intimate void offered by silence.
A major block to dreaming together is self-talk or internal dialog
- your imagined commentary about the meanings or implications of your
ongoing experience. Examples are worrying, self-criticism or repeating a
hallucinated song in your mind; all inner chatter that you may be unable to stop.
If you pay attention to your internal dialog, you may find that it
is rather repetitive and boring. But who are you when you stop talking to
yourself? Who are you without your memories, your education, your
expectations, your beliefs and your thoughts?
Who would you be right now - without your illusions of past and future?
What happens to your life when you stop describing it to yourself?
This can be wonderful - or scary. Direct experiences of who you are - rather than telling
yourself who you might be - can take you into a strange world where everything changes
while staying the same. For many people it is an ecstatic state of
freedom, and for some few it can
be the essence of terror.
The Vijnana Bhairava Tantra (a text of Kashmir Shivaism) teaches
that every person
has an infinite dimension. One way to access it is to imagine
that your body is totally
empty, and that your skin is a thin shell. Imagine that your
breath moves in an empty
space, like a wind that can blow away your thoughts,
memories and expectations.
When you finally stop the chatter - you may forget what
you were doing and why. It's easy to get lost in the void.
We recommend that you ask an experienced coach to accompany you,
to ensure your safety and help your orientation to resonance,
reception and actualization.
You showed me how I can
take vacations from myself.
Resonance & Sharing
Create yourself out of nothing!
Make up your mind!
Does it seem that you attract people with your own problems?
When someone describes their life challenges, you may automatically
recall some events in your own life that seems to match their
situations, and then you may choose to withhold or share your
sense of resonance.
You helped me find a space in which I could change.
I didn't have to learn
your theories, follow your directions or adapt to your
methods. I just changed.
By sharing, we choose to relate more as equals. If we share our experiences,
we can seek ways to move forward together. Sharing dreams is not only
integrated into our work, it is integrated into how we cooperate as
Questioning & Silent Listening
Both questioning and silent listening are integral parts of
our Soulwork coaching. Our many questioning formats are relatively easy to
follow. Silent listening ... accepting without editing ... is
difficult for many Western people (although monks at a monastery
in Nepal told me that, for them, such not-doing is easy).
Silent listening can also evoke a timeless emptiness - a
void of nothing with the potential for everything. The void is full - full
of potential! Sometimes the void seems to contain potential
answers for every question, and potential solutions for every situation.
Many people spontaneously experience these timeless moments
during our coaching as they step towards
the Soul of Soulwork -
towards the experience that we call integrity. The void is a predictable experience on the path to
Learn how to use ecstatic awareness to change the
issues that prevent you from entering ecstatic awareness!
Let us create a connected space between us. From this space you can identify and manage emotional and relationship problems
and find lasting solutions for unwanted habits. In this space you can change
Do you want to explore your emotions that so often underlie complaints ... and the relationship issues that generate
your emotions ... and
the ability to change the relationship issues that
create your emotions?
Do you want to manage your emotions and solve relationship
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